We’ve all been there.
At some point we stop living in the present and stop feeling grateful. Somewhere along the way we lose a sense of what we have around us. We start taking for granted our friends and family, we don’t enjoy our work and everything becomes a chore.
We become so focused on the future and the person that we could be, that we neglect to realise that we are living our real life right now. Having this mind set can cause us to mistreat people or not live authentically to ourselves. Failing to see what is all around us causes us to lose sight of what really matters.
We’re busy at life. Things feel like they’re moving faster than we can keep up. You’re jumping from one thing to the next without any real thought at all. There is a chance we can build up an anxiety from avoiding the things that we really want to do. We keep looking at the future in the hopes that everything will work out alright.
But the future isn’t happening right now.
Things will go wrong no matter what you do to try and avoid it. But things can also go right. It’s up to you if you chose to slow down and accept what is happening in your present.
When daily life starts to grind you down, stop and take a moment to think of the good things that surround you:
We might be stuck at work for the better part of the day, but there are plenty of ways to incorporate the outdoors into our everyday lives. Simply going for a walk at lunch time or walking home from work can make a world of difference. If we’re facing a tough situation a walk to centre our thoughts might be the thing we need.
- Being creative
We’re often surrounded by a lot of things that distract us. It would be easy to sit on the couch and scroll through Instagram or watch television for the rest of the evening. But what if we tapped into that creative side for the evening? You could cook up a storm in the kitchen by following a favourite recipe. Why not start a blog or Instagram for a 30 day project?
There are lots of ways to meditate. There isn’t really a right or wrong way to do it, as long as it works for you. Sitting quietly for five minutes might work for you. You might prefer a guided meditation podcast to help you. Whatever your preference meditation helps to clear the mind and reorganise your thoughts. Often, meditation can feel like hitting the ‘reset’ button and you see new ways to tackle situations. More importantly, it reminds you feel present.
Taking out some time to check in with friends will remind you of some of the good that you have in your life. If you’ve felt that you have neglected them recently, try going for a walk after work or catching up over a few cocktails. You might even be able to help them with a problem.
- Helping others
Helping out at the local animal shelter or raising money for charity means you are dealing with what is happening right now. You could also help out family members and friends. Taking time out from your own thoughts and supporting others reminds you how lucky – and fulfilling – it is to help others.
- Noticing your surroundings
Technology has skewed the way that we look at our surroundings. We’re constantly glued to screens without taking notice of where we are.
Whether you’re at the local park or gym, bring your thoughts into the now. Look around at your surroundings. Switch off your phone and take in what’s right in front of you. Simply observing your current surroundings can remind you of how blessed you are. Being able to afford the gym or having a beautiful nature trail to walk through is something many people don’t have. Take advantage of such indulgences and focus on how it makes you feel.
- Making progress
We’re constantly learning new things and working towards moving forward. Personal growth doesn’t just happen overnight. Look back at the person you were when you were 21, you’ll notice that you’re now a different person. Think of the progress you’ve made since then. It could be that your career is flourishing or you’ve met the love of your life. Whatever the case may be appreciate how far you’ve come, and how far you’ll go.
- Being healthy
Having the ability to go for a run or unload the groceries from the car shouldn’t be taken for granted. Our health can change at any given moment, so appreciating the fact that we can go for a hike or hear our favourite music should not be taken lightly.
- Tell someone how you feel
You might have had a crush on someone for some time. Plucking up the courage to tell them will weigh on your mind, so tell them how you feel. Whether they return the sentiment or not, the fact that you took that off your mind and gave in to a moment of spontaneity speaks volumes.
- Free time
We don’t have to be on the go all the time. Simply sitting outside and soaking up your surroundings is enough. Social media presents this façade that we always have to be doing something of note. There is no shame to just sitting and relaxing. Life is best lived off social media.
Many things happen for a reason. There’s an infinite amount of ways to feel blessed, and bad days do happen, but it’s up to you how to deal with it. What’s important is how you felt in the moment you were present. You’ll never take something for granted again.